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5个步骤教你拥有好口才 – 第一步骤「起稿」 

1. 前言:

亲爱的朋友们,你们是否发现,这时代光有好外表、好学历,已经不足已与他人竞争了?没错!尤其突奇而来的新冠肺炎,打乱了各行各业的节奏。相应的是,需要<好口才>的行业如雨后春笋,如:各种买卖直播、课程教学、教会连线礼拜等。

 

可以说,「有好口才,就有好未来」。所以,你必须投资你的<口才>!

 

在此,我免费共享我从总会长牧师所传授的方法中,我觉得实用、简而易懂的5大步骤,籍此让大家快速掌握书写文章及说话能力。

 

本文目录:

  1. 前言
    • 好口才的定义
  2. 第一步骤:起稿
    • 核心是什么?
    • 如何写出好文章?
      • 前言
      • 内容
      • 总结
      • 定标题
  1. 总结
    • 功课

 

1.1 <好口才>的定义

所谓<好口才>,是指「好好地传达」。不管让你发表的时间或长或短,充分地把你脑中的想说的都表达出来,让聆听者的思想有所获益、领受感动、甚至产生变化,这就是<好口才>。

2018年,我在一场千人聚会给予30分钟的讲座

 

2. 第一步骤 : 起稿

必须先写好稿子,才能将杂乱无章的想法,井而有序地表达。此外,带着稿子上场的好处有:

  1. 突然缺场,脑袋一片空白时,有稿子提醒你
  2. 突然灵感如瀑布倾泻而下,滔滔不绝而离核心渐行渐远,有稿子帮你拉回正途
  3. 现场观众反应让你觉得需要加快脚步、或附加说明,稿子可以帮助你即时应变,哪里该删、哪里该加。

2.1 核心是什么?

写稿前,一定要先定下<核心>。好的稿子,是明确带出<核心>,绝不摸棱两可。<核心>如同包子里的馅,如果<核心>被夺走,<整体>也终究会被夺走。

 

所谓<核心>,就是:你写这文章的目的、你为什么要写这文章?因此,<核心>只要一句话就能说出来的。

 

这里有两个我常用的方法帮助你找出核心:

  1. 你最想听众/观众了解、得到什么?
  2. 如果要你在观众、听众听完你整个演说、看完你整篇文章后,只记得一句话,你要他们记得哪句话?

 

我这篇<5个步骤教你拥有好口才>的核心,并非「5个步骤」,也不是「教你好口才」,而是「有好口才,就有好未来!」

 

2.2 如何写出好文章?

一旦<核心>确定后,就可以开始动笔写文章,从哪里开始着手呢?好文章该具备的四大要素:

 

2.2.1 要素:前言(巧妙的开头)

<前言>也可以说是「巧妙的开头」。研究显示,一般观众会以3-10秒来决定要不要继续把这文章读下去,或者用1-2分钟来决定要不要把一个演说听下去。因此,<前言>成为了生死攸关,可说占了整篇文章50%或以上的生命,那你还觉得随便写写就可以了吗?

 

好的<前言>,是能引起观众的好奇而迫不及待想要继续追下去,了解<核心>是什么。可以反问、可以自我嘲讽、可以举出现在大家关心的课题加上你的论点等方式呈现。

 

举例:我在这篇<5个步骤教你拥有好口才 – 第一步骤「起稿」> 中,一开头直接了当写着标题<前言>,使用反问「这时代光有好外表、好学历,已经不足已与他人竞争了?」,附加现在大家关心的课题「尤其突奇而来的新冠肺炎,打乱了各行各业的节奏。」。接着,我引起好奇「需要<好口才>的行业如雨后春笋」  。

 

2.2.2 要素:内容

请把<核心>想成是钉子,人的脑就是一副墙壁,那么,<论点>就是敲打钉子的铁锤,敲一下,钉子不够稳固,那就敲多两下。

 

因此,恰当地举出1-3个论点,强化<核心>。要是可以,每个论点上,再加配上1-2例子,让<论点>实例化,就更容易消化。

举例:我在这篇<5个步骤教你拥有好口才 – 第一步骤「起稿」>里,在<好文章该具备的三大要素>中,每一个要素都附上一个例子。

 

2.2.3 要素:总结

重申<核心>,列出需要做的,展望未来。

文章写好后,要反复校稿以便没有错字、句子流畅、段落分明。最重要,不能模糊了<核心>。

 

2.2.4 定标题

正如前面提到,有鉴于大部文章都会透过社交媒体宣传出去,面对资讯爆炸时代,正如前面提到,观众3-10秒的眼球比起前言,又更被标题吸引。因此,标题可谓<画龙点睛>,让好内容可以飞上天。

 

标题该具备:

  1.  引起好奇心、吸睛
  2. 观众可以学习到什么,如:好口才
  3. 数字化标题,如:5个步骤 XXX

3. 总结

投资自己的口才,就是投资自己的未来!珍惜每一次Facebook的贴文、每一个1分钟的报告、每一次5分钟的分享,21次就会成为习惯,100次就会成为能力。让你的每一个内容都成为作品,想传达的思想都能深刻烙印在观众的脑中!

 

敬请期待下一篇:5个步骤教你拥有好口才 – 第二步骤「演说8大技巧」

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和平从内心开始,宽待众人

1)和平是从内心开始达成

一个人成功与否,不仅仅是拥有多少财富,更多是,拥有多大 、多阔、多平安的内心。

因为所有的成功,都需要强大的心理建设来支撑,不然,成功会随着软弱内心倒塌而支离破碎。

建设内心,也等于建设成功。

宽待别人,就是宽待自己。

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Sg Long UTAR CWW 2019: Experiencing life to the fullest

CWW 2019: Experiencing life to the fullest

The Department of Student Affairs’ Counselling Guidance Unit organised the Counselling and Wellness Week (CWW) 2019 at UTAR Sungai Long Campus from 11 June 2019 to 13 June 2019.

The theme of this year’s event was ‘Honouring Your Feeling is the Mathematics of Life’. The event aimed to shed light on the importance of feeling gratitude to experience the fullness of life. It also aimed to provide participants with information and knowledge to customise their strengths when facing life challenges.

“Unlocking First Love”
Brahmmakumari encouraging students to be more confident and positive

UTAR Psychologist lecturer B. Brahmmakumari presented a talk titled “Unlocking First Love” which focused on the meaning of “First Love”. During her talk, she said, “Life is a gift, so is love. The first love comes from loving your own self.” Quoting the Buddha, she said, “You yourself, as much as anybody else in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” She then shared the benefits of loving oneself.

She presented the “love wellness model” to guide the participants on how to love themselves and shared the concept called “I AM” which refers to Investigate, Accept and Manifest. She explained, “Investigate who you really are, discover your likes, dislikes, motivation and fears. Accept who you really are and look out for your strengths and weaknesses. As for Manifest, learn to be true to yourself by being the person you truly want to be.” She also shared her personal story, explaining how proud she was to see the changes that took place in her life, from feeling low to being a cheerful person. She added, “You have the power to be confident, but you have to make it real and just be yourself. Be grateful to yourself and take the initiative to understand yourself better.”

The second talk titled “Pursue happiness as a lifelong learning process”
Nelson highlighting the importance of happiness

The second talk titled “Pursue happiness as a lifelong learning process” was presented by Counsellor-cum-former UTAR undergraduate Nelson Tan Yan Xun. The purpose of the talk was to make participants understand the essence of lifelong learning and to set a happy lifestyle as a lifelong goal. The talk began with a Q&A session for the participants. The three questions were, “What is happiness?”, “How to achieve it?” and “How to prolong it?”.

“Personal happiness is what matters. Take care of yourself first. It does not matter what other people think,” he said. He taught a simple method on how to prolong happiness, which was through developing habits that could help achieve life goals. He added, “Life is like a marathon, it is about how to prolong happiness.” The talk ended with a group discussion where the participants were taught an effective technique to make positive changes in life, which include changing the way one speaks.

“Be the top fans of yourself”
Ma (front row, sixth from right) with the participants

Moreover, professional writer Ma Long was invited to deliver a talk titled “Be the top fans of yourself”. In his talk, Ma encouraged the students to listen to their inner heart and interact with their inner self. In order to assist the participants to recognise their personality traits, he categorised them using several shapes, namely triangle, square, circle and the S shape. These shapes represent different characteristics. They were determined through a personality assessment.

“You should honest with how you feel and what you want,” he said, adding that being honest would allow them to connect with their inner self and other people on a deeper level. He also shared some techniques that help students to better understand their relationship with themselves and others.

The Happy Relationship Formula”
Joanne Chin (front row, centre) with participants

Another invited speaker, Counsellor Joanne Chin shared her personal story and highlighted the importance of worldview, the principle of life and values in a relationship. Her talk, “The Happy Relationship Formula” provided some guidelines for successful communication and conflict resolution.

According to her, communication and attitude are important elements to manage a relationship. “To gain a positive outcome from a conversation, you need to understand and express your feelings in a non-judgmental way. Stop blaming your loved ones for minor things,” she said. She also shared some great techniques to improve communication.

The event offered different fun-filled activities

Various game booths were also set up at the event area to attract more participation from the students. The games included woollen heart making, bingo, mix and matching, cup stacking and other exciting activities. The event also held a sharing session called “Life Journey café”. The participants were given the opportunity to discuss matters concerning life and death.

“Life Journey café” provided a platform to express thoughts about death

 

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Sg Long UTAR Counseling Wellness Week 2018

Counseling Wellness Week 2018

Students participating in ‘Yoga during pregnancy’

The Department of Student Affair Counselling Guidance Unit organised the Counselling Wellness Week (CWW) 2018 at Sungai Long Campus from 12-14 June 2018. The event featured exhibitions, relevant games, activities and talks. Themed ‘Living in Gratitude: A Journey of Healing’, the event aimed to spread the awareness of feeling grateful in life and also to set a platform for students to acquire skills that would enable them to live better.

Ng explaining the personality test analysis

Professional writer Ma Long presented a talk titled “The Power of Thank You: Can Change Your Life”. The talk focused on the power of gratitude and explained how the word, “thank you” can change one’s life. In his talk, he advised students to appreciate the little things in life, to focus their attention on what is pleasurable rather than distressing themselves over little issues. He also provided the participants with information and knowledge that could help them realise their strength in facing life challenges. He said, “The same fact can be very different when you see it from another perspective. Sometimes we just need a different angle to help us see things as they really are.” He also shared with the audience about the water molecule experiment, which was done by Japanese scientist Dr Masaru Emoto, in order to highlight the importance of positive thinking and to show the great power of thoughts and emotions.

Ma delivering his talk

The second talk, titled “Four Colours Personality Analysis: Knowing Self, Understanding Other”, saw Focus Personality Analysis (Malaysia) Ng Chian Jean using the colour personality test to assess and help participants to know more about themselves and why people react to certain situations in a certain way. In relation to the colour red, blue, yellow and green, Ng shared about the four basic personality types and analysed each of its strength while giving insight into the potential downsides of each type. He added, “It is perfectly normal if you have more than one colour. Some people might have bits of each colour personality, although some colours may be more predominant than the rest.”

Vincent Leong from Plato Experiential Consultancy conducted a workshop titled, “Keep Calm and Rasakan Gratitude”. He shared on ways to experience and show gratitude in life. Some of the highlights he mentioned in the workshop were self-reflection, self-acknowledgement and self-worth. He said, “We must remember that the only person who can help us is ourselves. We have to cultivate the best in ourselves. We have to accept our good and ugly sides to acknowledge ourselves.”

Students creating paper bookmarks
Participants filling up letters at the ‘Noah-ark and Letter’ booth

 

Reproduce: Counseling Wellness Week 2018

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Sg Long UTAR Awareness campaign

Awareness campaign

An awareness campaign was organised by the Department of Student Affairs (DSA) Counselling and Guidance Unit at Sungai Long Campus from 22 to 23 January 2018.

The theme of the campaign was “In-motion: Walk with Emotion”. It was held with the objectives of promoting the importance of emotional health among students as well as helping them to manage their emotions properly.

The campaign saw a series of talks which was presented by invited speakers Lily Wong, Liang Yaw Wen, Ma Long and Lee Shae Nee. The topics covered during the talk were “Anger Management for Students”, “Hypnosis: Managing Emotion at the Subconscious Level”, “Good Thought, Good Feeling” and “Emotional Blackmail”.

Wong (centre) guiding the participants to play a mini game

During the talk, Wong shared some tips to the audience on how to control their emotions. She urged the participants to recognise the reasons behind anger and figure out some healthy ways to manage it. She advised the audience not to suppress the feelings of anger but rather to de-escalate the emotions by diverting the negative energy through certain activities.

Liang’s Talk
Liang explaining the definition of hypnosis

In Liang’s talk, he spoke on topics such as the concepts and myths of hypnosis, alpha and beta state of mind, and managing emotions through hypnosis. “Through hypnosis, we are able to calm ourselves down to realise and understand the current situation and solve issues in a rational way,” he said. He also provided some experiential learning for the participants to experience hypnosis and learn how to perform it individually.

Ma’s Talk
Ma pointing out that different people see things in different way

On the other hand, Ma said, “Our thoughts will determine our feeling, and our feeling will influence our judgments and decisions, which in turn, influence our destiny.” He mentioned that negative thoughts could lead people to experience the negative emotions of sadness and depression. This leads to further negative thinking and suicidal mindset. Therefore, he encouraged the audience to maintain a good thinking and good emotion in their daily life.

Lee’s Talk
Lee pointing out the signs of emotional blackmail

With her talk titled “Emotional Blackmail”, Lee gave a comprehensive definition to make the audience understand on this novel type of emotional abuse. She taught the audience to understand the different type of emotional blackmails and guided them to recognise the signs of emotional blackmail as well as to understand what to do in the event of a given circumstance.

“In order for emotional blackmail to work, there has to be a willing victim. Knowing what emotional blackmail looks like and understanding how to deal with them, will prevent you or someone you know to fall victim to an abusive or manipulative person,” said Lee.

Meanwhile, several activities such as interactive games, psychological test and awareness exhibition booths were offered to assist participants in managing and expressing their emotions in a healthy way. Bearing the theme of five basic emotions, namely ‘Happy’, ‘Fear’, ‘Sad’, ‘Disgust’ and ‘Angry’, the booths aimed to provide an opportunity for the participants to reflect upon their emotions, verbalise their concerns and express their innermost feelings. During the event, the participants were also given a chance to make “emotion ball” as a memorable gift for them to remember what they have benefitted from the campaign. One of the highlighted activities was tarot card reading which enabled the participants to express and clarify their feelings on a particular issue, as well as to find answers to their most important questions, besides providing an in-depth guidance.

Participants having fun in making handmade emotion ball
Tarot readings
Participants having emotional experience through different activities

 

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<诗> 共鸣

共鸣, 弟子, 心声, 心思, 摄理, 摄理人, 摄理教, 摄理教会, 清晨箴言, 灵光一闪, 生活, 相同的频率, 背影, 起初的爱之火, 郑明析

共鸣

是您隐秘爱我的心声

与我隐秘爱您的心声

共同震动出

相同的频率

我听懂了您的心声

也看懂了您的心思

在您即将跨出大步地往前进的同时,

我愿紧紧追随您,

哪怕只看得见您的背影,

我也不想落后!

2014.2.21     5.00am

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<诗>与椰树对话

与椰树对话

「伟大的椰树啊!

许多在你面前跟他合照过的,
都倒塌了,
然而你却依然屹立不倒,
反而长得更高了!

为什么呢?」 我问。

「因为,我在等他再次回来啊!

每想念一个月,
我便会长高一寸。
真的没想到,
我这一等,

就长得那么高了!」

椰树回答说~~~

2014.2.9    8.40pm

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<诗> 99的靠近,久久的爱

99的靠近,久久的

(一)游园惊梦

真与假

梦与现实

好象很难分辨

有人说

「眼睛」是最大的骗子

因为有时看得见的

却不是实存的

而有时看不到的

却是那么真实

那没有「眼睛」的日子

又会怎样?

 

(二)人间天堂游一

人们都向往理想的生活

天堂一般的日子

喧哗的都市

重重的压力

逼迫得让人透不过气来

生活真的那么烦

那么无奈

那么无聊吗?

菜要调味料才好吃

生活要调剂才有味

让生活更简单

更有趣些!

 

(三)娱乐插班

有没有想过

现在的你

有时并非真正的你

为了适应环境

符合某某人的要求及期待

传统的约束及潮流的冲击

让本来真性情的你

隐藏了起来

而展现出来的

是个虚假的一面

有没有发觉

在内心深处

又有另一个自己?

多些认识自己

其实不只一个「你」

 

(四)午夜凶

你最怕什么?

黑?鬼?

家庭?朋友?

冷漠?压力?

未来?

还是自己?

在你不经意的时候

「它」会跟你见面 !!!

 

(五)我?生活!未 

有些事

并非那么难懂

只要多一点用心

多一点沟通

答案很明显地会出来

用心

让彼此互相珍惜

沟通

让彼此互相靠近

 

(六)不可能错过你

好的时光容易流失

好的日子很难把握

有些时候

为了得到更好的

必须舍得「舍去」

现在所拥有的

但现在我知道

从今以后

在我的人生里

不可能错过你!

1999.11.27

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<诗> 对话(主篇)

对话(主篇)

好久没有相聚

渴望看到你的样子

听到你的声音

还有你的温柔 …

挂念得太久吧

所以贪心了一些

现在    我们相聚了

在一个咖啡厅内 …

「你还好吗?」我问

「…」

「你不舒服吗?」

「…」

「…」

秒针没有停下来

寂静却聚集了很多

街上好象匆忙得很

却进不了我的眼眸

我的眼神只凝视着你

从你改变了的发型开始

到你颤抖的手

你杯中的饮料都快喝完了

桌上没有别的值得

让你注视不动

你脸上的表情

木纳得可以

但眉宇间却不断播放着

我看不懂的零碎片段

「你为什么不说话?」

「…」

「是谁让你受了伤害?是我吗?」

「…」

「…」

从你心中散发出来的寒意

逼使我的眼泪在眼眶里喘气

有几颗   不行了

便随意的滑落

顿时   全世界都变得酸酸地

你没嗅到吗?

10分钟过去了

这是第六个10分钟

你起身就要走了

我唯有抓住你的手

你的手好冷

我却无法握久一些

终于   你的眼光和我的眼光

正面相对

你的眼是红的

脸颊也有泪迹

眼神中

仍有一丝丝爱意

刹那间   眼光一闪而过

对着我的    是你忧愁笼罩的背影

卷缩在人群中    渐渐消失

而我   不知呆了多久

瞬间   好象一切都停了下来

脑海也一片空白

任由空白的世界

重播着刚才

你跟我的

「对话」

1999.11.12

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<诗> 那句话

那句

你临走前

只留下一句

绝对爱我,不要变!」

这是一个承诺

誓言

个用爱的钉

牢牢钉在爱情城堡大门上的

那也是一信心

种动

驱动着爱情列车

我天真地想把这句话应验出来

让全世界有生气

都震撼我的

可笑的是

输给了自己

×       ×       ×       ×       ×       ×

个人的日子很难过

整夜对着你的照片诉说

时笑有时泪

断反复地重温那爱的感觉

太久了

有点麻木还带点累

不知

被他的爱占了一席位

渐渐地霸占了整个留给你的空位

还不承认自己变了!

反而说服自己这是我根本想要的

认为他比你

我修饰对你的回信

我以为我可以隐瞒

我不知其实是在骗自己

×       ×       ×       ×       ×       ×

哈!哈!

他最后还是走了

也把我的一切都拿走了

希望            心情  …

只留下遍体鳞伤的我

他的承诺他的誓言

象泡沫一个一个吹散了    

来一切都是幻影 !!

连自己也快没有了 !!

×       ×       ×       ×       ×       ×

你回来

我假装看不到

你走前过来

没说一句话

虽我心中有太多的想说

你也没说什么

轻吻了我的额头

搂我在你怀

我听到了你的心跳

我的眼泪也在跳

你带我离开了那心情监狱

风拭去我的泪

用月亮将我的哭述听进

更用星星在夜空堆成一行字

你心中最想对我说

「最爱你的,永远是我,

别怕,坚强地站起来吧

我在你的身边!」

泪将我的衣弄的更湿

颤抖着紧紧搂着你

×       ×       ×       ×       ×       ×

 !滴 !滴 

小雨点滴在我身上

你哭泣了吗

对不起,我伤了你的心

雨后天醒了

我也醒了

雨迹在地上留下一行字

绝对爱我,不要变!」

1999.10.19