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5个步骤教你拥有好口才 – 第五步骤「检讨与评估」、「实践的权柄」

「检讨与评估」

 

一场演说、分享结束后,无论结果是好是坏,必须收集从观众来的Feedback,要做「自我检讨、评估」。

 

  1. 弄好一个评估表,让听众、观众填

不要设计太多、太复杂的问题,建议5-7题,最想收集的Feedback,如:内容、肢体动作、现场气氛等。

 

  1. 演说前,邀请5-7位能帮助自己提升的人,在你演说后给你真诚的feedback

 

  1. 仔细地观察自己演说影片,自我评估。这方法也是最有效的自我检讨方法。

 

最后的劝勉:「实践的权柄」

 

有人演说,是为了传达知识;有人是为了分享经验;有人单纯地想要试试自己的胆量。无论你是哪一个目的、带着怎样的心态,最强而有力的演说,就是你自己实践过的内容。没有实践过却大声嚷嚷呼喊的,就像鸣的锣,响的鼓。

 

也许大家经历过,明明嘴巴无误地讲出了某名人的内容,但是自己说的,就是无法感染人,而那名人谈笑风生中说出同一句话,却被疯传。这就是「实践的权柄」。在实践者身上,才有那句话的权柄与威力。

 

个人素养的提升、生活历练的累积,都是提升演说的根本。

 

祝福所有想要拥有好口才、提升演说能力的朋友们,我们一起好好感受生活,好好修造自己吧!

 

<5个步骤教你拥有好口才>的5大步骤统统分享完了!我也是为了自己不忘记而当成笔记记录下来,希望能给大家带来些些帮助!一起加油!

 

回顾之前4大步骤:

  1. 第一步骤「起稿」
  2. 第二步骤「演说的8大技巧」
  3. 第三步骤「反复练习、彩排的重要性」
  4. 第四步骤「克服三恐」、「生命影响生命」
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5个步骤教你拥有好口才从第一到第三步骤,都是集中教导技术性方法。这篇要教导演说者该要有的「心理建设」(克服三恐)。 「心理建设」就像地基,万丈高楼平地起,越深越稳的地基,就能建起越高的摩天大楼。

<好口才>是可以使用一辈子的实力,宁可按部就班,不急于事功。

以下是我多年讲课、演说中,使用了跟总会长牧师学习的好方法,配上实践后的心得,整理后分享给大家。

即使在运动会前分享,只要事先掌握运动场、观众背景,仍然可以游刃有余进行游戏互动

 

  1. 什么是「三恐」?如何「克服三恐」?

让演说者却步,不敢挑战群众演说,或者准备了很多,却在临场时失水准的「三恐」,到底是何方神圣?又要如何克服三恐?

所谓「三恐」就是:

i. 恐生 – 陌生的地方、人群

克服方法:

对于陌生地方, 我在第三步骤「反复练习、彩排的重要性」已经教导了。只要提前到实际现场,多次进行彩排,就能克服。

除非要保持神秘感,不然,我一般上会在讲座前先到会场,现跟出席者简单交流、互动,这不但可以稍微掌握观众的趣向,同时也能让出席者对我建立好感,甚至我会将一些可用性资料,马上加入讲稿内,好让开讲时,引用现场观众的例子,让他感觉被重视。

ii. 恐多 – 人多、背景很复杂

克服方法:

事先可以先收集出席人数,一些出席者的资料、背景,好让自己做好心理准备,并进行「以魂练习」(参考第三步骤「反复练习、彩排的重要性」)。

当站在多人的聚会面前,可以鼓励认识、熟悉的人,坐在前排,看得比较清楚的地方。不然,就是分散坐在不同的地方,但事先要知道,那么演说时,可以先看着他们来让心情稳定,之后就可以将眼神平均落在每个人身上。

要是完全没有认识的人在现场,那么先集中看最后一排是不错的,毕竟有一段距离,就算有非善意的人坐在那排,那锐利的眼神也会减弱不少。

iii. 恐高 – 有<高人>坐在观众席里面,轻则全身冒汗,重则心脏麻痹、血液会不循环、头晕脑涨。

<高人>的级别可分类为:

a) 微弱高人 – 自己的父母、师长、前辈、有经验的演说者、水平差不多的同学等,他们过来捧场,以示支持。

克服方法:

邀请他们坐在前排或显眼的地方,他们在关键时刻会成为一股力量,鼓励着演说者大胆勇敢地演说下去。

b) 微强高人 – 聚会被邀请出席VVIP(首相、世界级演说家等)、评审、教你演说的导师等,即使是带着善意,但磁场太强,多少会有畏缩感。

克服方法:

可以在内容中设计一小段见证对方(微强高人)带给你的正面影响,藉此感谢他们。这不但会让演说者心存感激,也会快速平复忐忑心情,甚至让台上的他们,深感安慰。

c) 超强高人 – 交叉着双手在胸膛,翘着二郎腿,脸部没有表情地专注盯着你,一副就是要抓小辫子的同行、敌队、绝对非善类

克服方法:

首先,一定要了解,若我演说,我就是主场。舞台会赋予主讲者「主场优势」的神秘力量,能将平凡的演说瞬间加上「光环」,让威力增加几倍。   这时,反而要藉此机会「化敌为友」,意思是,让不接受自己的人,因为这场演说之后,反而认同、接受了,这感觉无比美好。

结束演说后,可以先主动询问「超强高人」们,收集他们的回馈,不要回避。也许他们的回馈偶尔有刺,往往是最能让自己突破盲点的好回馈。

现场有中学生1200人,能够从台上走进人群,拿捏得宜,会拉近与会众的距离

 

  1. 什么是「生命影响生命」?(真诚、领受圣灵)

我一直都秉持着「生命影响生命」的哲学观、信仰观来演说。另一句话就是,在我演说的内容中,除了要有正确的资讯、论点之外,一定要有自己亲自经历过的实体例子,再不然就是我亲眼看过、亲耳听到的真实故事,成为见证素材。

无论是自己的真实故事、或他人故事,一定要是感动过我的故事。无法感动自己的内容,也就无法感动别人。再好的内容,要是没有触动内心、灵魂,那不过是「知识性」、「表面性」的演说,无法让人刻在心版上。

舌头就是火,在我们百体中,能把生命的轮子点起来,并且是从地狱里点着的。<雅各3:6>

演说者必须「真诚」地分享、演说,所有的技巧、技术都是为了盛装「真诚」而有的器皿而已。

「真诚」来自你为什么要演说、分享这内容的「初衷」。玩弄性、虚情假意的演说、分享,是「自挖信任坟墓而自埋」,会失去的不是观众、听众,而是别人对你的信任。

真心靠近,真诚分享,以生命感动生命

 

  1. 如何「领受圣灵」?

最后,「领受圣灵」吧!拿着「真诚」的内心成为盛装圣灵的器皿,让圣灵游刃有余地透过你说话吧!

不要思虑怎样说话或说什么话。到那时候,必赐给你们当说的话。因为不是你们自己说的,乃是你们父的灵在你们里头说的。<太10:19-20>

在演说前,空出时间充分地祷告恳求吧!不但可以安定心神、集中想法、也能邀请见证的圣灵与你同在,让整个演说成为一个完美的作品。

 

下一篇是完结篇,会教导:第五步骤「检讨、评估」与「 实践的权柄」 

 

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5个步骤教你拥有好口才 – 第三步骤「反复练习、彩排的重要性」

「台上一分钟,台下十年功」道出了「练习与彩排」的可贵性,我就不必多说。在这里分享不同阶段的练习与彩排。(有从总会长牧师亲自传授中学习的,也有自己实践过程中体会的)

 上一篇:5个步骤教你拥有好口才 – 第二步骤「演说8大技巧」

充分掌握观众背景、场地环境、音响灯光、舞台战围等,才能尽兴地演说。

 

阶段一:念稿子

  • 把自己写好的稿子,反复不断地念出来,并要计时,必须控制在预定的时间内
  • 有句子不流畅、错别字、用词不当的词句,马上修改
  • 可以的话,把每行句子中最核心、最重要的highlight起来,那么眼睛扫一扫、瞄一瞄,就能够想起整句或整段内容
  • 可以的话,把最核心的句子背起来,现场要是一字不漏地把整句、整段传达出来,会大大增加演说者的帅气、实力、及信心
  • 反复朗读出来,对咬字发音有很大帮助

 

阶段二:对着镜子练习

  • 自己要先成为自己的第一个观众,因此,看着镜子才能正确地做出恰当的肢体动作
  • 一般上人们最不能接受镜子中的自己,感觉很尴尬、别扭。要是连自己也能够被自己的演说、肢体动作感动,那么现场观众也一定能够接受并被感动
  • 战胜了镜子中的自己,就战胜了内心的恐惧,自信感自然就会飙升

 

阶段三:跟信任的人分享、练习

  • 如果有可以信任的人,在他或他们(小群)面前先分享一些内容(20-30%左右的内容即可),测试大家的反应,籍此联想当天现场观众的反应
  • 例子1:当讲到一个笑点,一般人会笑多久?这时间必须计算在内,因为现场要是观众笑的话,需要给点时间大家,不适宜再说新内容,不然大家会错过、或听不清楚
  • 例子2:当讲到需要深入思考的内容时,看看观众的反应,了解后,就不会错把没有表情当成没有在聆听
  • 跟信任的人分享后,也可以询问他们的意见,籍此修改需要修改的内容
  • 恰当使用ppt、影片,会让演说更生动、更容易带入感

 

阶段四:实际现场的彩排

  • 我非常看重现场彩排,它几乎左右了现场演说的80%的果效
  • 必须在实际现场进行彩排,最理想的就是完整的进行一次,确保跟当天一模一样,并录像下来
  • 如果有使用道具,并有跟观众互动环节,可以专专练习这部分几次,免得临场时发生冷场,或出现失控状态,也不能让互动环节喧宾夺主
  • 一定要计时,包括互动环节的时间,一定要控制好时间,不然整个演说变得冗长、沉闷
  • 站位、音响、灯光、ppt等,都必须full run,因为不只是讲员一人的演出,各相关单位都要清楚知道并完美搭配,一个完美的演说才算成功
  • 蛮多人轻忽彩排,很多时候幕后人员在彩排时,大概大概走一次,有些甚至由别人代替自己的岗位走一次。这是大错特错,要是现场临时发生事故、失误,对应的方案相对会缓慢很多,因为他脑中根本没有任何Idea
全场观众跟着一起玩起拍打的节奏,要拿捏好时间,不然会喧宾夺主

阶段五:观察彩排的录像影片

  • 实际现场彩排后,拿录像好的彩排影片,反复地观看并仔细研究该要修改、提升的部分
现场使用道具,会更生动,但必须拿捏得宜

 

阶段6:以魂练习

  • 这是最重要的环节,就是腾出一个时间能让你集中冥想(可以在祷告时间、无人干扰时间),在脑中,用想法想象自己在现场,面对着群众,从出场、到第一句话开始、到每一个段落、到跟观众互动、到最后谢幕,都完整地想象一次,这是「以魂练习」!
  • 这时,平常对着镜子练习的模样、彩排时现场的环境、以及彩排时的录像画面,会大大帮助你「以魂练习」
  • 要是能反复进行「以魂练习」,那么即使临场发生任何突发事件,你也能从容面对,因为你的脑中已经充满了演说画面,不会「一片空白」!
  • 不只是演说,任何形式的舞台演出,都可以进行「以魂练习」,这样临场演出时,会更增添信心!

 

总结:不想在难能可贵、千载难逢的演说机会里,留下一辈子的遗憾,那做足准备、「反复练习」吧。如今网路无远弗届,一个好演说不只让数万人受惠,甚至可以流传十年、百年。那还有什么借口不勤加「反复练习」?

 

下一篇将会为大家分享:5个步骤教你拥有好口才 – 第四步骤「克服三恐」、「生命影响生命」

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5个步骤教你拥有好口才 – 第二步骤「演说8大技巧」

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5个步骤教你拥有好口才 – 第二步骤「演说8大技巧」

我总是觉得,<最佳演说家>都在咖啡厅。因此,我偶尔独自一人到比较热闹的咖啡厅,静静观察那里人的一举一动。他们总是能滔滔不绝、比手画脚、七情上脸、声音绕梁地说上好几个小时,也不会出现「脑袋真空」、「灵感枯竭」的窘境,呵呵!!!

 

有时,也会观察路上行人的各式各样的神态,都有助于提升演说能力。

 

延续上一篇「起稿」,稿子都写好啦,就是要好好发表的时候。在此共享我从总会长牧师那里领受过的培训中,简而易懂却十分重要的「演说8大技巧」。

 

须留意的「演说8大技巧」

 

1)肢体动作

1.1 事先设计好恰到好处、收放自如、干净利落的肢体动作,会让人边聆听边看着手的滑动而产生与之相符的画面,增加对内容的同感

1.1.1 例子:提到小孩与母亲时,可以伸出左手到腰部高度,同时说出「这小孩」,人们脑中会浮现大概到腰部高度的小孩。之后伸出右手到肩膀高度,同时说出「跟母亲说」,听众脑中就会浮现身高到肩膀的母亲。

1.2 太多会变得浮夸、像看在戏;太少则让人感到木讷、沉闷

1.3 即使单手,若有层次感地呈现,也会让人感觉画面丰富

1.4 多留意不必要的「小动作」,例子:身体不断摇晃、一直整理衣服、拨头发等

1.5 如是可以走动的演说,要设计好2-3的位置点,可以交换站在这2-3位置点上。不要太凌乱、走动太频密,会让人无法集中、深入思考

1.6 恰到好处地喝水,不要太频密,观众误以为你是金鱼(呵呵)

太频密喝水,让人误以为是金鱼

1.6 严禁用手指指向观众,请使用正确、礼貌指点人的手势,例子:

这是不正确、不礼貌的点人手势
这是比较礼貌的点人手势
这是正确、有礼貌的点人手势

2)抑扬顿挫

2.1 抑 – 加重、扬 – 提高、顿 – 停顿、挫 – 转折

2.2 不要从头到尾只有一个调(Tone),不要死谷谷地在念稿,说话要如同唱歌、演员念对白一般

2.3 速度要刚刚好,该快的时候快,该慢的时候慢,让人进入云霄飞车一般,陶醉在其中

2.4 声音要生动、有活力(不是肢体动作),不要死气沉沉,也不要太冗长

 

3)断句

3.1 干净利落的断句,如同线条优美的身材;该凹的地方要凹,该凸的地方要凸

3.2 长篇的句子让听众感到负担,因为听到后面会忘了前面

3.3 如果想说到并列很多的句子,建议把句子好好分段

3.3.1 例子:「一场突奇而来全世界都在挑战的新战役 – 新型冠状病毒打乱了整个社会秩序、经济脉搏、及社交关系,政府经过周详地研究并兼顾各种领域后决定发放援助金改善人民的经济困境。」

3.3.2 可以整理断句成:一场突奇而来 / 全世界都在挑战的新战役 /- 新型冠状病毒 / 打乱了整个社会秩序 /、经济脉搏 /、及社交关系,政府经过周详地研究 / 并兼顾各种领域后 / 决定 / 发放援助金 / 改善人民的经济困境。

 

4)发音、声音

4.1 咬字要清晰,嘴型要恰当,严禁含糊、懒惰发音的态度,因为容易误导听众

4.1.1 如:「死(sǐ)就死(sǐ)吧!」念成「屎(shǐ)就屎吧!」

4.1.2 第四音化,如:要了解他的心情( xīn qíng),念成( xìng qíng ),听起来像「要了解他的性情」

4.2 发自丹田的声音,才能达到绕梁三尺的效果,长时间说话也不会伤到声带

4.3 要有「每一个人都清楚听到我说的每一个字」的野心

4.4 要与Mic、Speaker、环境靠近,甚至成为一体,达到驾驭它们的地步,而不是被技术、环境控制了自己的演说

麦克风要与主讲者成为同一幅身躯,游刃有余地控制声量

5)流畅(没有<赘字>)

5.1 要演说的句子,越精简越好,因为聆听跟阅读是有差异的

5.2 <赘字>会让人模糊焦点并感到纳闷,干脆删除不必要的<赘字>,以停顿来取代。常听到的<赘字>有:

5.2.1 …来到去…,例子:政府发放援助金「来到去」改善人民的经济困境,其实,只需要「来」就可以了,真实不需要也可以。

5.2.1.1 政府发放援助金「来」改善人民的经济困境

5.2.1.2 政府发放援助金,改善人民的经济困境(这在演说时,更适合,因为有停顿一下,更容易吸收)

5.2.2 …酱子,例子:政府发放援助金,改善人民的经济困境「酱子」(这样子)

5.2.3 …的部分、…的话、…的关系,例子:政府发放援助金「的部分」,改善人民的经济困境「的关系」

5.2.4 … 的话,例子:政府发放援助金「的话」,改善人民的经济困境

5.2.5 真的是…、…真的,例子:政府发放援助金,「真的是」改善人民的经济困境

5.2.6 所以…,例子:政府发放援助金,改善人民的经济困境,「所以…」(借机会想起下一句话)

5.2.7 哦!… ,例子:毫无意识下讲出的音

5.2.8 … OK? OK! … 等等,例子:为了再确认对方听得明白吗?不自觉地以「OK」来提醒对方,例子:政府发放援助金,改善人民的经济困境,「OK?」

 

6)眼神、视线处理及脸部表情管理

6.1 <眼神>也是传达的好工具,与观众达到<眼神>交流,是很棒的演说

6.2 <眼神>要自然环视,平均地落在每个人身上

6.3 不要眉头紧缩、脸部紧绷

6.4 平易近人的微笑具有穿透力,能让听众、观众更能敞开心扉来聆听

6.4.1 平时自己对着镜子微笑5分钟看看,直到自己看自己都觉得很舒服、很自然为止,那么在台上的笑容,也会迷倒众人。

 

7)造型

7.1 服装、发型、装饰(耳环、项链等)要得体、适当,不可喧宾夺主或黯淡无光

7.2 保留自己的特质与特色,不必光模仿

 

8)心情预备与心理建设

8.1 真心、诚意,最容易打动人心

8.2 即使紧张也要先营造轻松气氛,听众、观众才会感到舒服

8.3 当演说者越紧张,听众、观众看了也会随着紧张,这时演说者看着气氛凝重的观众群,就会产生更紧张的连锁效应

8.4 不要被现场观众牵着走,要是看到有观众打瞌睡、交头接耳聊天、板着脸在抓小辫子、离场等等,心情绝对不能倒塌,也不能打乱自己准备好要说的内容之节奏,反而即时要转换想法,随机应变,至少还有大部分的观众还在认真聆听,我们要对他们尽责

8.5 出场前,透过祷告来安定心神吧!

 

以上「演说8大技巧」,也必须按照观众人数多寡,强弱也必须拿捏得宜。10人的聚会、100人的聚会、1000人的聚会,所需的能量也随之不同。要是在数千人面前,又没有荧幕投射特写镜头,坐在后面的人,感受力会大大地减弱。确保所有人都能够得到你要传达的讯息。

 

无论如何,多练习就会熟能生巧,找出自己的特质与特色,使其发光吧!

下一篇将会跟大家分享:5个步骤教你拥有好口才 – 第三步骤「反复练习、彩排的重要性」

 

上一篇:5个步骤教你拥有好口才 – 第一步骤「起稿」

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5个步骤教你拥有好口才 – 第一步骤「起稿」 

1. 前言:

亲爱的朋友们,你们是否发现,这时代光有好外表、好学历,已经不足已与他人竞争了?没错!尤其突奇而来的新冠肺炎,打乱了各行各业的节奏。相应的是,需要<好口才>的行业如雨后春笋,如:各种买卖直播、课程教学、教会连线礼拜等。

 

可以说,「有好口才,就有好未来」。所以,你必须投资你的<口才>!

 

在此,我免费共享我从总会长牧师所传授的方法中,我觉得实用、简而易懂的5大步骤,籍此让大家快速掌握书写文章及说话能力。

 

本文目录:

  1. 前言
    • 好口才的定义
  2. 第一步骤:起稿
    • 核心是什么?
    • 如何写出好文章?
      • 前言
      • 内容
      • 总结
      • 定标题
  1. 总结
    • 功课

 

1.1 <好口才>的定义

所谓<好口才>,是指「好好地传达」。不管让你发表的时间或长或短,充分地把你脑中的想说的都表达出来,让聆听者的思想有所获益、领受感动、甚至产生变化,这就是<好口才>。

2018年,我在一场千人聚会给予30分钟的讲座

 

2. 第一步骤 : 起稿

必须先写好稿子,才能将杂乱无章的想法,井而有序地表达。此外,带着稿子上场的好处有:

  1. 突然缺场,脑袋一片空白时,有稿子提醒你
  2. 突然灵感如瀑布倾泻而下,滔滔不绝而离核心渐行渐远,有稿子帮你拉回正途
  3. 现场观众反应让你觉得需要加快脚步、或附加说明,稿子可以帮助你即时应变,哪里该删、哪里该加。

2.1 核心是什么?

写稿前,一定要先定下<核心>。好的稿子,是明确带出<核心>,绝不摸棱两可。<核心>如同包子里的馅,如果<核心>被夺走,<整体>也终究会被夺走。

 

所谓<核心>,就是:你写这文章的目的、你为什么要写这文章?因此,<核心>只要一句话就能说出来的。

 

这里有两个我常用的方法帮助你找出核心:

  1. 你最想听众/观众了解、得到什么?
  2. 如果要你在观众、听众听完你整个演说、看完你整篇文章后,只记得一句话,你要他们记得哪句话?

 

我这篇<5个步骤教你拥有好口才>的核心,并非「5个步骤」,也不是「教你好口才」,而是「有好口才,就有好未来!」

 

2.2 如何写出好文章?

一旦<核心>确定后,就可以开始动笔写文章,从哪里开始着手呢?好文章该具备的四大要素:

 

2.2.1 要素:前言(巧妙的开头)

<前言>也可以说是「巧妙的开头」。研究显示,一般观众会以3-10秒来决定要不要继续把这文章读下去,或者用1-2分钟来决定要不要把一个演说听下去。因此,<前言>成为了生死攸关,可说占了整篇文章50%或以上的生命,那你还觉得随便写写就可以了吗?

 

好的<前言>,是能引起观众的好奇而迫不及待想要继续追下去,了解<核心>是什么。可以反问、可以自我嘲讽、可以举出现在大家关心的课题加上你的论点等方式呈现。

 

举例:我在这篇<5个步骤教你拥有好口才 – 第一步骤「起稿」> 中,一开头直接了当写着标题<前言>,使用反问「这时代光有好外表、好学历,已经不足已与他人竞争了?」,附加现在大家关心的课题「尤其突奇而来的新冠肺炎,打乱了各行各业的节奏。」。接着,我引起好奇「需要<好口才>的行业如雨后春笋」  。

 

2.2.2 要素:内容

请把<核心>想成是钉子,人的脑就是一副墙壁,那么,<论点>就是敲打钉子的铁锤,敲一下,钉子不够稳固,那就敲多两下。

 

因此,恰当地举出1-3个论点,强化<核心>。要是可以,每个论点上,再加配上1-2例子,让<论点>实例化,就更容易消化。

举例:我在这篇<5个步骤教你拥有好口才 – 第一步骤「起稿」>里,在<好文章该具备的三大要素>中,每一个要素都附上一个例子。

 

2.2.3 要素:总结

重申<核心>,列出需要做的,展望未来。

文章写好后,要反复校稿以便没有错字、句子流畅、段落分明。最重要,不能模糊了<核心>。

 

2.2.4 定标题

正如前面提到,有鉴于大部文章都会透过社交媒体宣传出去,面对资讯爆炸时代,正如前面提到,观众3-10秒的眼球比起前言,又更被标题吸引。因此,标题可谓<画龙点睛>,让好内容可以飞上天。

 

标题该具备:

  1.  引起好奇心、吸睛
  2. 观众可以学习到什么,如:好口才
  3. 数字化标题,如:5个步骤 XXX

3. 总结

投资自己的口才,就是投资自己的未来!珍惜每一次Facebook的贴文、每一个1分钟的报告、每一次5分钟的分享,21次就会成为习惯,100次就会成为能力。让你的每一个内容都成为作品,想传达的思想都能深刻烙印在观众的脑中!

 

敬请期待下一篇:5个步骤教你拥有好口才 – 第二步骤「演说8大技巧」

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Sg Long UTAR CWW 2019: Experiencing life to the fullest

CWW 2019: Experiencing life to the fullest

The Department of Student Affairs’ Counselling Guidance Unit organised the Counselling and Wellness Week (CWW) 2019 at UTAR Sungai Long Campus from 11 June 2019 to 13 June 2019.

The theme of this year’s event was ‘Honouring Your Feeling is the Mathematics of Life’. The event aimed to shed light on the importance of feeling gratitude to experience the fullness of life. It also aimed to provide participants with information and knowledge to customise their strengths when facing life challenges.

“Unlocking First Love”
Brahmmakumari encouraging students to be more confident and positive

UTAR Psychologist lecturer B. Brahmmakumari presented a talk titled “Unlocking First Love” which focused on the meaning of “First Love”. During her talk, she said, “Life is a gift, so is love. The first love comes from loving your own self.” Quoting the Buddha, she said, “You yourself, as much as anybody else in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” She then shared the benefits of loving oneself.

She presented the “love wellness model” to guide the participants on how to love themselves and shared the concept called “I AM” which refers to Investigate, Accept and Manifest. She explained, “Investigate who you really are, discover your likes, dislikes, motivation and fears. Accept who you really are and look out for your strengths and weaknesses. As for Manifest, learn to be true to yourself by being the person you truly want to be.” She also shared her personal story, explaining how proud she was to see the changes that took place in her life, from feeling low to being a cheerful person. She added, “You have the power to be confident, but you have to make it real and just be yourself. Be grateful to yourself and take the initiative to understand yourself better.”

The second talk titled “Pursue happiness as a lifelong learning process”
Nelson highlighting the importance of happiness

The second talk titled “Pursue happiness as a lifelong learning process” was presented by Counsellor-cum-former UTAR undergraduate Nelson Tan Yan Xun. The purpose of the talk was to make participants understand the essence of lifelong learning and to set a happy lifestyle as a lifelong goal. The talk began with a Q&A session for the participants. The three questions were, “What is happiness?”, “How to achieve it?” and “How to prolong it?”.

“Personal happiness is what matters. Take care of yourself first. It does not matter what other people think,” he said. He taught a simple method on how to prolong happiness, which was through developing habits that could help achieve life goals. He added, “Life is like a marathon, it is about how to prolong happiness.” The talk ended with a group discussion where the participants were taught an effective technique to make positive changes in life, which include changing the way one speaks.

“Be the top fans of yourself”
Ma (front row, sixth from right) with the participants

Moreover, professional writer Ma Long was invited to deliver a talk titled “Be the top fans of yourself”. In his talk, Ma encouraged the students to listen to their inner heart and interact with their inner self. In order to assist the participants to recognise their personality traits, he categorised them using several shapes, namely triangle, square, circle and the S shape. These shapes represent different characteristics. They were determined through a personality assessment.

“You should honest with how you feel and what you want,” he said, adding that being honest would allow them to connect with their inner self and other people on a deeper level. He also shared some techniques that help students to better understand their relationship with themselves and others.

The Happy Relationship Formula”
Joanne Chin (front row, centre) with participants

Another invited speaker, Counsellor Joanne Chin shared her personal story and highlighted the importance of worldview, the principle of life and values in a relationship. Her talk, “The Happy Relationship Formula” provided some guidelines for successful communication and conflict resolution.

According to her, communication and attitude are important elements to manage a relationship. “To gain a positive outcome from a conversation, you need to understand and express your feelings in a non-judgmental way. Stop blaming your loved ones for minor things,” she said. She also shared some great techniques to improve communication.

The event offered different fun-filled activities

Various game booths were also set up at the event area to attract more participation from the students. The games included woollen heart making, bingo, mix and matching, cup stacking and other exciting activities. The event also held a sharing session called “Life Journey café”. The participants were given the opportunity to discuss matters concerning life and death.

“Life Journey café” provided a platform to express thoughts about death

 

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Sg Long UTAR Counseling Wellness Week 2018

Counseling Wellness Week 2018

Students participating in ‘Yoga during pregnancy’

The Department of Student Affair Counselling Guidance Unit organised the Counselling Wellness Week (CWW) 2018 at Sungai Long Campus from 12-14 June 2018. The event featured exhibitions, relevant games, activities and talks. Themed ‘Living in Gratitude: A Journey of Healing’, the event aimed to spread the awareness of feeling grateful in life and also to set a platform for students to acquire skills that would enable them to live better.

Ng explaining the personality test analysis

Professional writer Ma Long presented a talk titled “The Power of Thank You: Can Change Your Life”. The talk focused on the power of gratitude and explained how the word, “thank you” can change one’s life. In his talk, he advised students to appreciate the little things in life, to focus their attention on what is pleasurable rather than distressing themselves over little issues. He also provided the participants with information and knowledge that could help them realise their strength in facing life challenges. He said, “The same fact can be very different when you see it from another perspective. Sometimes we just need a different angle to help us see things as they really are.” He also shared with the audience about the water molecule experiment, which was done by Japanese scientist Dr Masaru Emoto, in order to highlight the importance of positive thinking and to show the great power of thoughts and emotions.

Ma delivering his talk

The second talk, titled “Four Colours Personality Analysis: Knowing Self, Understanding Other”, saw Focus Personality Analysis (Malaysia) Ng Chian Jean using the colour personality test to assess and help participants to know more about themselves and why people react to certain situations in a certain way. In relation to the colour red, blue, yellow and green, Ng shared about the four basic personality types and analysed each of its strength while giving insight into the potential downsides of each type. He added, “It is perfectly normal if you have more than one colour. Some people might have bits of each colour personality, although some colours may be more predominant than the rest.”

Vincent Leong from Plato Experiential Consultancy conducted a workshop titled, “Keep Calm and Rasakan Gratitude”. He shared on ways to experience and show gratitude in life. Some of the highlights he mentioned in the workshop were self-reflection, self-acknowledgement and self-worth. He said, “We must remember that the only person who can help us is ourselves. We have to cultivate the best in ourselves. We have to accept our good and ugly sides to acknowledge ourselves.”

Students creating paper bookmarks
Participants filling up letters at the ‘Noah-ark and Letter’ booth

 

Reproduce: Counseling Wellness Week 2018

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Sg Long UTAR Awareness campaign

Awareness campaign

An awareness campaign was organised by the Department of Student Affairs (DSA) Counselling and Guidance Unit at Sungai Long Campus from 22 to 23 January 2018.

The theme of the campaign was “In-motion: Walk with Emotion”. It was held with the objectives of promoting the importance of emotional health among students as well as helping them to manage their emotions properly.

The campaign saw a series of talks which was presented by invited speakers Lily Wong, Liang Yaw Wen, Ma Long and Lee Shae Nee. The topics covered during the talk were “Anger Management for Students”, “Hypnosis: Managing Emotion at the Subconscious Level”, “Good Thought, Good Feeling” and “Emotional Blackmail”.

Wong (centre) guiding the participants to play a mini game

During the talk, Wong shared some tips to the audience on how to control their emotions. She urged the participants to recognise the reasons behind anger and figure out some healthy ways to manage it. She advised the audience not to suppress the feelings of anger but rather to de-escalate the emotions by diverting the negative energy through certain activities.

Liang’s Talk
Liang explaining the definition of hypnosis

In Liang’s talk, he spoke on topics such as the concepts and myths of hypnosis, alpha and beta state of mind, and managing emotions through hypnosis. “Through hypnosis, we are able to calm ourselves down to realise and understand the current situation and solve issues in a rational way,” he said. He also provided some experiential learning for the participants to experience hypnosis and learn how to perform it individually.

Ma’s Talk
Ma pointing out that different people see things in different way

On the other hand, Ma said, “Our thoughts will determine our feeling, and our feeling will influence our judgments and decisions, which in turn, influence our destiny.” He mentioned that negative thoughts could lead people to experience the negative emotions of sadness and depression. This leads to further negative thinking and suicidal mindset. Therefore, he encouraged the audience to maintain a good thinking and good emotion in their daily life.

Lee’s Talk
Lee pointing out the signs of emotional blackmail

With her talk titled “Emotional Blackmail”, Lee gave a comprehensive definition to make the audience understand on this novel type of emotional abuse. She taught the audience to understand the different type of emotional blackmails and guided them to recognise the signs of emotional blackmail as well as to understand what to do in the event of a given circumstance.

“In order for emotional blackmail to work, there has to be a willing victim. Knowing what emotional blackmail looks like and understanding how to deal with them, will prevent you or someone you know to fall victim to an abusive or manipulative person,” said Lee.

Meanwhile, several activities such as interactive games, psychological test and awareness exhibition booths were offered to assist participants in managing and expressing their emotions in a healthy way. Bearing the theme of five basic emotions, namely ‘Happy’, ‘Fear’, ‘Sad’, ‘Disgust’ and ‘Angry’, the booths aimed to provide an opportunity for the participants to reflect upon their emotions, verbalise their concerns and express their innermost feelings. During the event, the participants were also given a chance to make “emotion ball” as a memorable gift for them to remember what they have benefitted from the campaign. One of the highlighted activities was tarot card reading which enabled the participants to express and clarify their feelings on a particular issue, as well as to find answers to their most important questions, besides providing an in-depth guidance.

Participants having fun in making handmade emotion ball
Tarot readings
Participants having emotional experience through different activities

 

Reproduce : Mental health awareness campaign